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Thursday, February 14, 2008

Happy Valentine's Day, Jan!

Happy Valentine's Day!

It's been said many times that you never know how one event in your life will change it forever. Answering a phone or a question, taking a chance, any of these might be the most important thing that happens in your life. Writing this note, I am thinking about the phone call I received from my cousin in the summer of 1969, asking me if I would like to go on a blind date with his girlfriend's best friend on Saturday. Little did I know (how could I?) that saying yes to that invitation would be the most important moment in my life.

So you and I went with Steve and Pam on our first date of many, spent our first evening of many, on the road that lead to marriage and our life together. What would my life have been like if I had said no? It could not have been better or more wonderful than the life we've shared together has been.

Through the years, I put you through some difficult times. I apologize for that. Beginning a career, moving several times (once while you were pregnant with our son), making foolish choices, you always showed me the wisdom of your love. You showed me that if you want to be loved more, be more loving. If you want trust, be trustworthy. If you want help and care, be more helpful and caring.

You gave me patience when I was headstrong, but you were always vocal about where the line was; you know, the one I shouldn't cross. You cared for me always. You supported me in ventures that you were unsure of, and were joyful when they succeeded, sympathetic when they didn't. How would my life have been, if I hadn't said yes back in 1969?

And most importantly, you have been my foundation and support these last few years as I have battled medical problems and work issues. No one will ever know how much I appreciate you for that. You alone have seen me in my weakest and saddest moments, and have not let me down. I will never be able to say how much that means to me.

I tell you that "I love you more than life itself," and we smile in a loving way as if it were a joke. But what I mean to say is, I cannot imagine my life without you. I cannot picture not having you with me in my life. My life would be a dull, sad, lonely one without you to share my hopes, dreams, accomplishments, and failures. And who would share my favorite time of the day with me?

That is my Valentine's Day message to you. It is a poor attempt to tell you how lucky I am to be with you. You are more to me than I ever deserved or expected. I am just glad that I grew up enough to see it. Happy Valentine's Day, Jan.


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